Well, I have learned that I must respect my husband, whether I feel he deserves it or not. Respect is most important to a man. And my husband must show me love, whether he feels I deserve it or not. Being showed love is most important to a woman. When we let our emotions get in the way and fail to show these things to each other, we create distance. Therefore, we lose intimacy. We build walls and lose communication. In order to prevent that from happening, Ephesians 5:33 must be practiced. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.